Things to Consider
1. Schedule the time to Come Out. Avoid sharing this information spontaneously in conversation; plan your time and location.
2. Come Out first to those individuals who you feel will be the most supportive.
3. Consider the best time for yourself and the other person.
4. Emphasize that you are the same person you were yesterday and that you have not become a different person now that you have shared about yourself.
5. Give the other person time to adjust. It took you how many years? Allow the other person reasonable time to process (could be days, weeks, months, years).
6. Have someone lined up for debriefing with you.
7. Don’t give up hope with an initially negative reaction to your sharing.
8. Be careful not to let your self-esteem become reliant on positive outcomes of Coming Out.
9. Do not Come Out to punish others or when you are feeling very emotional.
10. Recommend readings to the person to whom you Come Out.
11. Read! There are many good titles on Coming Out. Don’t re-invent the wheel, much of this work has already been done.
This information is posted with the permission of its author: Barry A. Schreier, Ph.D.