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Listening
How much of your time do you spend listening?
Have you ever taken a class in listening? Chances
are you have probably taken classes in writing, reading and speaking
but never in listening. Listening like speaking, reading, and
writing is a skill that needs to be developed. Whether listening
to a lecture or talking with a friend, retraining needs to take
place to develop effective listening skills. The following are
the areas in which retraining needs to occur: Adapt
to the speaker's appearance and delivery. We
all have biases. Just as in memory, don't let a speaker's
appearance, speech pattern, or political view, affect your willingness
to accept new information. Overcome
and adjust to distractions. Distractions
may be Listen
for concepts and major ideas. Do
not concentrate on isolated facts at the risk of missing the
central theme. Focus
genuine attention on the speaker and the message. Avoid
being a ``Pretend Listener,'' smiling and shaking your head without
accepting the message. Listen
without judging or refuting the message. Don't
grasp on to one point and prepare your response without hearing
the complete message. Check your motives for listening. A response
is not always necessary. Listen
to difficult expository material. Improve
your skills by
From: Florence I. Wolff, ``Listening Perceptively to Learn, Grow, and Prosper at Wright State University or Listening Can Be Taught and Learned,'' Workshop presented at Wright State University (Dayton, Ohio, 10 April 1984). |